7 Tips for Choosing a Partner Who May Not Abandon You

7 Tips for Choosing a Partner Who May Not Abandon You

I have noticed that when it comes to picking a partner, many people manage to miss certain key traits or tendencies that might suggest that one day their chosen mate might abandon them. First, many people fail to ask questions about the prospective partner’s relationship history—a huge mistake. Second, they ignore or give little credence to an individual’s pattern of behavior. Many people have told me that they avoid asking questions because they do not want to scare a potential mate away. Others have confessed that if something was wrong they didn’t want to know about it. I take this as a strong need to keep their fantasy intact; so much for premarital counseling. Nevertheless, to help my readers choose someone who can make a commitment, I offer the following 7 tips:

1. Choose someone with a good relationship-credit-rating:

1. Choose someone with a good relationship-credit-rating:

The time a candidate has committed to past relationships can give you an indication of the individual’s staying power; treat it like the individual’s relationship-credit-rating. If, for example, the prospective candidate has had several exclusive, relatively stable relationships of two or more years, this bodes well for his or her capacity to make a commitment. On the other hand, someone who has a history of unstable, short-term relationships should be perceived as a risk even if he or she offers what may seem to be legitimate excuses. It simply cannot always be everybody else’s fault.